Nov. 27, 2025 Newsletter - BE changed into people through whom God will BRING change
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How will you choose to participate in relationships this Thanksgiving?
I came across this question in an article written by Kathleen Smith, a therapist and author, who helps individuals and organizations shift out of the anxious relationship patterns that keep us stuck. I often spend energy trying to manage (or silently critiquing) the way our family operates when we’re together. I have a hard time being relaxed or simply enjoying time with everyone. In my (weak) defense, I spend Thanksgiving with my in-laws’ side of the family, my children are like free-range chickens, and there are four dogs… holidays are a little crazy.
If you’re going to be spending Thanksgiving with friends or family, I’m almost certain you can relate in some way. According to Smith, “in times of togetherness, our respect for the individuality of others can fly out the window. Our anxiety needs somewhere to live, and it often resides in our criticism, our prodding, our imagining how others could make better choices or annoy us less.” There’s something about being with others where we participate in relationships in ways that rob us of our joy.
I doubt this is what any one of us wants to experience as we gather with friends and family today. I’m mostly certain the majority of us head into Thanksgiving with the intention (or hope) to have a time where we experience joy or to use Jesus’ phrase, life to the fullest.
This Thanksgiving, I want to invite you to spend time reflecting on the way you tend to show up and to prayerfully participate in relationships. Maybe there is a family member you really struggle to be around, invite God to be in the struggle. Maybe there’s a memory that moves you deeply, give thanks to God for that gift. Perhaps there’s a sadness for loved ones who are no longer with you, give thanks for the love that lingers and grieve with the God who holds our sorrows.
In all of this, let us hold to the hope we have in Christ, who, through his life, death and resurrection made a way for us to experience joy, life to the fullest. Thanks be to God.
Happy Thanksgiving to you all!
In Christ,
Pastor Michael